blacksheep
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My family, my brother’s family, and so on lives in the same vicinity. So, it's difficult to avoid having at least some contact.
I am the designated "black sheep" and no matter what I do/ don't do any more- can't seem to shake the label and for the most part no longer care... (I had a wild youth marked by exuberance and not unoccasional bad judgement, but not any real, lasting destruction... and I have few regrets...) I am now a happily married to a kind and wonderful women with twin boys, stable job, and attaining a degree.
I no longer fret about my notoriety of old except for when I have to be around my father, brother and his wife: My sister-in-law has somehow positioned herself as the golden girl and as much as I normally would laugh this sort of thing off- it's really getting to me. Aside from her annoying conducts and the rubbing this to my face that she is the favorite and heaven on earth in every way (so she seems to think) she also seems to think that she can “emulate” my late mother. My father is supposedly the least likely to respond to this sort of sentiment (but so charmed by her somehow don’t know why) - and I cringe every time she does it in front of me (and I think she does things in purpose...) She gladhands my entire family and family friends at gatherings (and they are eating it up) and I am really starting to resent it in spite of my better self. My patient and loving wife who have done nothing wrong seem to have fallen from the same label as me. Her inner beauty and quiet manner has been unmatched by the boisterous attention seeker of a sister inlaw.
My Brother and his wife does enough little, insinuating things- things that make me sense a rivalry from them when there is, truly, no competition- I lost that one a long ago. I think they wants to rub my face in something and I feel like punching them both sometimes. Help me not to.
And, no, unfortunately I can't totally avoid these situations b/c despite my unpopularity- my children are love by my parents and innocent from this.
My family’s favoritism makes me feel like there is nothing I can do to deserve the same respect and courtesy. I feel like I’m losing it sometimes and I don’t what to result this into a complete avoidance after all he is still my brother….
I am the designated "black sheep" and no matter what I do/ don't do any more- can't seem to shake the label and for the most part no longer care... (I had a wild youth marked by exuberance and not unoccasional bad judgement, but not any real, lasting destruction... and I have few regrets...) I am now a happily married to a kind and wonderful women with twin boys, stable job, and attaining a degree.
I no longer fret about my notoriety of old except for when I have to be around my father, brother and his wife: My sister-in-law has somehow positioned herself as the golden girl and as much as I normally would laugh this sort of thing off- it's really getting to me. Aside from her annoying conducts and the rubbing this to my face that she is the favorite and heaven on earth in every way (so she seems to think) she also seems to think that she can “emulate” my late mother. My father is supposedly the least likely to respond to this sort of sentiment (but so charmed by her somehow don’t know why) - and I cringe every time she does it in front of me (and I think she does things in purpose...) She gladhands my entire family and family friends at gatherings (and they are eating it up) and I am really starting to resent it in spite of my better self. My patient and loving wife who have done nothing wrong seem to have fallen from the same label as me. Her inner beauty and quiet manner has been unmatched by the boisterous attention seeker of a sister inlaw.
My Brother and his wife does enough little, insinuating things- things that make me sense a rivalry from them when there is, truly, no competition- I lost that one a long ago. I think they wants to rub my face in something and I feel like punching them both sometimes. Help me not to.
And, no, unfortunately I can't totally avoid these situations b/c despite my unpopularity- my children are love by my parents and innocent from this.
My family’s favoritism makes me feel like there is nothing I can do to deserve the same respect and courtesy. I feel like I’m losing it sometimes and I don’t what to result this into a complete avoidance after all he is still my brother….