bombayjac1993
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When my husband and I announced we were getting married his brother called to let everybody know he was getting married too. He had been with his girlfriend for 4 years ,had a child with her and never talked about getting married until his brother did. I got the impression he did it to one up us because he has done things like this to my hubby his entire life. If my husband gained 100 pounds ,shaved his head any pierced his nose his brother would do it to to get attention.
When his brother came down to our wedding all he did was try to get everybody to focus on planning his wedding ,which they decided to have 5 weeks after ours, and made sure his 3 year old son was also the center of attention. Needless to say the brother,his girlfriend and son ruined our wedding by being loud,trying to put their son in all our pictures (my mom told them she did not want pictures with a strangers kid ) and talking about their fancy wedding. Their kid cause several hundred dollars worth of damage to the hall we had our ceremony at so their were hard feelings.
A few weeks later when we got their invitation it said not children (but theirs ) could come. My husband adopted my 2 kids who were 11 and 12 and he saw this as a slap in the face because he was a new dad and because his nephew was so awful at our wedding. We also both started new jobs and could not afford to go to the wedding (we were still paying for ours) which was in California and we were in Texas. When we figured all the cost for the trip it would have cost us about 3000 dollars to go to the wedding.
We chose not to go and caught hell over it. But we were broke and insulted by his having a wedding so close to ours. My brother in law has narcissistic personality disorder and made my husbands life hell growing up . my brother in law was the favorite but was always on drugs and in jail but my husband was not allowed to have friends and his step mom often beat him with a belt when his brother got in trouble.
I am proud of my husband for finally telling his brother off. But is it just me or is it tacky to have a wedding a few weeks after a sibling and then tell them they cant brink their kids to the wedding?
my brother in law also joined the Marine Corp when he found out my hubby did. My husband served the whole 4 years active and 4 on reserve ,his brother made it 8 days and got kicked out for drugs and other reasons. Now my in-laws make fun of my husband for being a Marine . This is how screwed up this family is.
When his brother came down to our wedding all he did was try to get everybody to focus on planning his wedding ,which they decided to have 5 weeks after ours, and made sure his 3 year old son was also the center of attention. Needless to say the brother,his girlfriend and son ruined our wedding by being loud,trying to put their son in all our pictures (my mom told them she did not want pictures with a strangers kid ) and talking about their fancy wedding. Their kid cause several hundred dollars worth of damage to the hall we had our ceremony at so their were hard feelings.
A few weeks later when we got their invitation it said not children (but theirs ) could come. My husband adopted my 2 kids who were 11 and 12 and he saw this as a slap in the face because he was a new dad and because his nephew was so awful at our wedding. We also both started new jobs and could not afford to go to the wedding (we were still paying for ours) which was in California and we were in Texas. When we figured all the cost for the trip it would have cost us about 3000 dollars to go to the wedding.
We chose not to go and caught hell over it. But we were broke and insulted by his having a wedding so close to ours. My brother in law has narcissistic personality disorder and made my husbands life hell growing up . my brother in law was the favorite but was always on drugs and in jail but my husband was not allowed to have friends and his step mom often beat him with a belt when his brother got in trouble.
I am proud of my husband for finally telling his brother off. But is it just me or is it tacky to have a wedding a few weeks after a sibling and then tell them they cant brink their kids to the wedding?
my brother in law also joined the Marine Corp when he found out my hubby did. My husband served the whole 4 years active and 4 on reserve ,his brother made it 8 days and got kicked out for drugs and other reasons. Now my in-laws make fun of my husband for being a Marine . This is how screwed up this family is.