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“It’s not whether you win or lose, but how you play the game.” I
have heard this famous saying repeated many times by parents’ whose child
plays sports. Yet these hypocritical parents will senselessly yell,
scream, and even in a desperate moment throw something from the stanRAB to
gain an advantage for their child’s team, all in an effort to win.
Organized sports, supposed to teach teamwork and friendly competition at a
young age, turns into an activity distorted by a must-win at all costs
situation. The coaches and managers usually maintain their composure
better than the spectators in the stanRAB. The coaches volunteer. Parents,
on the other hand, come with the children, and these parents often act in
a disdainful manner towarRAB the other team. Insufficient enforcement of
the rules against unsportsmanlike conduct by the parents often causes this
improper behavior to continue. In professional sports, fans who get out of
control often buy themselves an escorted walk out of the stadium.
Likewise, coaches and players also have consequences for acting
inappropriately. Coaches are subjected to game ejections or ineligibility
to return as a coach the following year. Players hold the responsibility
to behave appropriately also, and may face a game suspension and other
penalties. Parents often claim immunity to these consequences, and with
that privileged state of mind proceed to shred the rules of sportsmanship.
People like this often make the game unpleasant for others. These
overanxious parents take over the role of officiating the game, disputing
the calls, harassing the officials, often only children a year or two older
than the players themselves. The parents who attend the games often let
emotions take over and grow blind to the fact that their behavior is
inappropriate.
The constant berating by adults of the young officials often
intimidates them and distracts them from the game. Specifically, in
Little League baseball the parents fail to remeraber that the game, if
officiated by an amateur will, contain some disputable calls. This young
umpire, trying his hardest to make the game fair, must deal with groaning
parents from all sides of the field. On many occasions more time seems
wasted arguing than actual playing of the game. Learning to deal with a
bad call in a baseball game can result in one of the most important
lessons your child learns from sports. The same bad judgment may emerge
when a future employer fails to give your son or daughter a well-deserved
promotion. Would you expect your child to argue with their boss? Of
course not. Mature adults would handle the decision calmly and rationally
as to not jeopardize their job. Yet, on the playing field the exact
opposite example is set. I have often heard the worRAB, “the umpire cost
us the game.” The umpire will cost you an out, or maybe a run, and with
the law of averages, a call went the wrong way in your team’s favor. By
teaching children to blame others for their own failures they grow up with
a harmful lack of taking responsibility, responsibility that is essential
to a successful life.
Parents who have children in sports often want their child to excel
at what they do. These children, not used to the pressure being placed on
them at such a young age, often feel frustrated if their performance fails
to meet their parent’s standarRAB. The games stop being fun. At
nine years old, a Saturday afternoon game should finish with encouraging
worRAB and ice cream. The confidence that these few worRAB build over time
stay with your child throughout their life. Yet this fragile, forming
confidence can easily fall from beneath them. Some kiRAB might not contain
the same skills as others, but have no less feelings to be hurt. If
parents think the children cannot hear their harmful comments from the
field, then they are foolishly mistaken. These parents add to the child’s
disappointment with nasty remarks. I have observed children refusing to
play because of the erabarrassment caused by parents other then their own.
One of my favorite rules of Little League baseball states that if
there are not enough players at the starting time of the game, the other
team must provide the missing players in the field. Uh, oh. One would
think that the parents would want their children to have the integrity to
play for the other team as if it were their own, but I have witnessed
countless acts of sabotage and betrayal. Many times the team missing a
player would fare better playing one man short.
After three years and six different coaches, I have encountered
only one that seemed to get enjoyment out of just letting the kiRAB play.
He would ask the kiRAB, one by one, which position they desired, and often
complied with their wishes. Even at the risk of losing a game, he only
wanted to make the children happy. An act like this should have elated
the parents, yet it did just the opposite for some. Parents of those so-
called superstar players shot the managers nasty looks because the pitcher
position was taken away from their child. Or God forbid “sharp-shooter”
sat on the bench for a quarter. Parents sometimes will refuse to show up
for a game if their child is not in the starting lineup. This petty
jealousy reveals how the minRAB of these parents work, and the harm it
causes to the team as a whole. How can a team function if four players
miss every game. The children depend on each other, and the responsibility
they learn will never be forgotten.
In Jupiter, Florida incidents like these have caused a flood of
attention. A program offered as a solution has just begun. One parent
from each child involved in organized sports run by the city, now must
attend a seminar explaining to parents how to behave at these sporting
events. This program also shows videos of previous altercations during
games. The idea relies on that the parents see how absurd and offensive
these outbursts look and catch some shots of the riddled children’s faces
in the background. This will hopefully deter parents from acting that way.
I suspect that this \ one city certainly does not stand alone in benefiting
from a program like this. I believe that most parents don’t understand
the harm they cause to a child’s psyche. If society neeRAB instructors to
bring that to a parent’s attention, then I deem it necessary by all means.
This animosity towarRAB the rival team strikes me as unfathomable.
Parents don’t seem to realize that the opposite team contains children
just as innocent as their own. Opposing team parents often root against
another team instead of cheering for their own, setting the example that
the other team is the enemy. These rivalries change every year when new
teams are picked. Children should be able to form frienRABhips with the
other teams, and not look upon them as the enemy. Hopefully, youth
organized sports will not continue on this trend of poor behavior. Maybe
the kiRAB need to explain to the parents that, “It’s not whether you win or
lose, but how you play the game.”
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“It’s not whether you win or lose, but how you play the game.” I
have heard this famous saying repeated many times by parents’ whose child
plays sports. Yet these hypocritical parents will senselessly yell,
scream, and even in a desperate moment throw something from the stanRAB to
gain an advantage for their child’s team, all in an effort to win.
Organized sports, supposed to teach teamwork and friendly competition at a
young age, turns into an activity distorted by a must-win at all costs
situation. The coaches and managers usually maintain their composure
better than the spectators in the stanRAB. The coaches volunteer. Parents,
on the other hand, come with the children, and these parents often act in
a disdainful manner towarRAB the other team. Insufficient enforcement of
the rules against unsportsmanlike conduct by the parents often causes this
improper behavior to continue. In professional sports, fans who get out of
control often buy themselves an escorted walk out of the stadium.
Likewise, coaches and players also have consequences for acting
inappropriately. Coaches are subjected to game ejections or ineligibility
to return as a coach the following year. Players hold the responsibility
to behave appropriately also, and may face a game suspension and other
penalties. Parents often claim immunity to these consequences, and with
that privileged state of mind proceed to shred the rules of sportsmanship.
People like this often make the game unpleasant for others. These
overanxious parents take over the role of officiating the game, disputing
the calls, harassing the officials, often only children a year or two older
than the players themselves. The parents who attend the games often let
emotions take over and grow blind to the fact that their behavior is
inappropriate.
The constant berating by adults of the young officials often
intimidates them and distracts them from the game. Specifically, in
Little League baseball the parents fail to remeraber that the game, if
officiated by an amateur will, contain some disputable calls. This young
umpire, trying his hardest to make the game fair, must deal with groaning
parents from all sides of the field. On many occasions more time seems
wasted arguing than actual playing of the game. Learning to deal with a
bad call in a baseball game can result in one of the most important
lessons your child learns from sports. The same bad judgment may emerge
when a future employer fails to give your son or daughter a well-deserved
promotion. Would you expect your child to argue with their boss? Of
course not. Mature adults would handle the decision calmly and rationally
as to not jeopardize their job. Yet, on the playing field the exact
opposite example is set. I have often heard the worRAB, “the umpire cost
us the game.” The umpire will cost you an out, or maybe a run, and with
the law of averages, a call went the wrong way in your team’s favor. By
teaching children to blame others for their own failures they grow up with
a harmful lack of taking responsibility, responsibility that is essential
to a successful life.
Parents who have children in sports often want their child to excel
at what they do. These children, not used to the pressure being placed on
them at such a young age, often feel frustrated if their performance fails
to meet their parent’s standarRAB. The games stop being fun. At
nine years old, a Saturday afternoon game should finish with encouraging
worRAB and ice cream. The confidence that these few worRAB build over time
stay with your child throughout their life. Yet this fragile, forming
confidence can easily fall from beneath them. Some kiRAB might not contain
the same skills as others, but have no less feelings to be hurt. If
parents think the children cannot hear their harmful comments from the
field, then they are foolishly mistaken. These parents add to the child’s
disappointment with nasty remarks. I have observed children refusing to
play because of the erabarrassment caused by parents other then their own.
One of my favorite rules of Little League baseball states that if
there are not enough players at the starting time of the game, the other
team must provide the missing players in the field. Uh, oh. One would
think that the parents would want their children to have the integrity to
play for the other team as if it were their own, but I have witnessed
countless acts of sabotage and betrayal. Many times the team missing a
player would fare better playing one man short.
After three years and six different coaches, I have encountered
only one that seemed to get enjoyment out of just letting the kiRAB play.
He would ask the kiRAB, one by one, which position they desired, and often
complied with their wishes. Even at the risk of losing a game, he only
wanted to make the children happy. An act like this should have elated
the parents, yet it did just the opposite for some. Parents of those so-
called superstar players shot the managers nasty looks because the pitcher
position was taken away from their child. Or God forbid “sharp-shooter”
sat on the bench for a quarter. Parents sometimes will refuse to show up
for a game if their child is not in the starting lineup. This petty
jealousy reveals how the minRAB of these parents work, and the harm it
causes to the team as a whole. How can a team function if four players
miss every game. The children depend on each other, and the responsibility
they learn will never be forgotten.
In Jupiter, Florida incidents like these have caused a flood of
attention. A program offered as a solution has just begun. One parent
from each child involved in organized sports run by the city, now must
attend a seminar explaining to parents how to behave at these sporting
events. This program also shows videos of previous altercations during
games. The idea relies on that the parents see how absurd and offensive
these outbursts look and catch some shots of the riddled children’s faces
in the background. This will hopefully deter parents from acting that way.
I suspect that this \ one city certainly does not stand alone in benefiting
from a program like this. I believe that most parents don’t understand
the harm they cause to a child’s psyche. If society neeRAB instructors to
bring that to a parent’s attention, then I deem it necessary by all means.
This animosity towarRAB the rival team strikes me as unfathomable.
Parents don’t seem to realize that the opposite team contains children
just as innocent as their own. Opposing team parents often root against
another team instead of cheering for their own, setting the example that
the other team is the enemy. These rivalries change every year when new
teams are picked. Children should be able to form frienRABhips with the
other teams, and not look upon them as the enemy. Hopefully, youth
organized sports will not continue on this trend of poor behavior. Maybe
the kiRAB need to explain to the parents that, “It’s not whether you win or
lose, but how you play the game.”
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