This guy I was seeing has suddenly ended us. He cant seem to handle me getting too attached to him because he needs time & struggles with feelings. He revealed to me once that he's always been hurt in relationships, all relationships end bad & thinks all girls cheat. He is an all or nothing kind of guy - think he gave it his all in his 4yr marriage but it ended 2yrs ago. Dont think he's recovered yet & not yet finalised divorce. Think she cheated on him ...
Anyway, we have amazing sex - we really are making love rather than having sex. Its always at least an 1hr to 2hr everytime - he always wants me to kiss him more & wants it to last for ages. Recently he was really touchy with me in public - almost protective.
But as this relationship is not yet official I have started to question where its going. He suddenly gets cold feet & ends us & makes out he has no feelings. He's blanked me now out of the blue & wont talk about it & says I will get hurt.
What can I do? I do like him lots & I think he was liking me too but he's scared everytime I try to define us. I try to go with the flow but I am scared too ... but willing to take a chance. He wont reply to my texts.
We also have lots in common & similar interests. But future is uncertain as I maybe returning my home country at the end of the year - he knows this. He has said he sees himself with kids in my country - wants to move out there but think he's having doubts - he is uncertain about his future.
I didnt give sex so easily to begin with ... we've been seeing each other 7mths now. It was a natural progression - we are not sleeping with others - that much I am clear on.
Like him, I came out of a long relationship too of 9yrs - mine ended bad too.
I think he has had a relationship with another girl for a few months since splitting with his wife 2yrs ago. Im not really a rebound - I dont think so.
Anyway, we have amazing sex - we really are making love rather than having sex. Its always at least an 1hr to 2hr everytime - he always wants me to kiss him more & wants it to last for ages. Recently he was really touchy with me in public - almost protective.
But as this relationship is not yet official I have started to question where its going. He suddenly gets cold feet & ends us & makes out he has no feelings. He's blanked me now out of the blue & wont talk about it & says I will get hurt.
What can I do? I do like him lots & I think he was liking me too but he's scared everytime I try to define us. I try to go with the flow but I am scared too ... but willing to take a chance. He wont reply to my texts.
We also have lots in common & similar interests. But future is uncertain as I maybe returning my home country at the end of the year - he knows this. He has said he sees himself with kids in my country - wants to move out there but think he's having doubts - he is uncertain about his future.
I didnt give sex so easily to begin with ... we've been seeing each other 7mths now. It was a natural progression - we are not sleeping with others - that much I am clear on.
Like him, I came out of a long relationship too of 9yrs - mine ended bad too.
I think he has had a relationship with another girl for a few months since splitting with his wife 2yrs ago. Im not really a rebound - I dont think so.