Am i wrong in thinking it is disrespectful for him to get a lap dance?

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Joseph T

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No. I don't that you are wrong in feeling that it disrespectful for him to do so. I'm almost sure of the fact, that if he loves you, he wouldn't like a more than half-naked man grinding his pelvis on your face, lap or wherever! You have some questions to ask...and some realizations to make.

Good luck. Keep me posted.
 
Ok so my bf's brother is getting married and they are going to a strip club after dinner for his bachelor party. I am old fashioned and do not think it is appropriate for someone to go to a strip club if they are in a relationship. we have been dating for 3 yrs. i txtd him "no lap dances" when he told me that they were going to a strip club. he wrote back and put "just 1." i found that VERY offensive and disrespectful. last night was the bachelorette party for the bride which of course i was obligated to go. they had a surprise stripper at the house and me not thinking it was right did not get into it. he did grab me out of force and lift me up even when i said no and when i finally got down i was quite offended by it. i told my boyfriend what happened because he did ask and we do not hide things. i told him how i was offended by it, told the stripper i had a bf and its not like i could have hit him and tell him to stop in front of everyone. so when he brought up "well you got one" i reminded him how i did not have a choice. getting a lap dance is different because you are choosing to get one and paying for it. i am petite and so i dint have much strength to pull away from someone who grabbed me. i told him i felt it was disrespectful if he got a lap dance and if he did to not expect to talk to me. i don't think its right that he is going to the strip club when i chose to only stay at the club 15 min for the bachelorette party that they went to after the stripper. although i know i cant tell him no don't go cause its his brother. but is it wrong of me to be offended that he would even say "just 1" to a lap dance, when he knows i don't agree with him going there to begin with.

please don't tell me to leave him, or get over it. im not worried about it i just find the whole thing disrespectful to being with if you are in a committed relationship. like i said i am old fashioned when it comes to going out when you are in a relationship.
Im not white... dont kno what that has to do with the ?, and im also not strict i dont tell him something like dont do anything stupid cause he is the type of person who cant take a hint. you have to be pretty blunt for him to get it
 
Uh, no, that's kind of gross. He should know better if he is in a serious relationship. I'm sure he'll feel guilty after awhile.
 
i feel the same way. i too was dating a guy for 3yrs and i did not want him to get a lap dance because i believe that is cheating. some naked girl grinding a single guy is ok, but not someone in a relationship.

if he cares about u or respects u, he won't get one. mine didn't as far as i kno.
 
I agree with you, but think of the bride, knowing her soon to be husband was having strange woman butt rubbed in his face. That's even worse to me than your problem. I think the whole bachelor party idea of "let's get wild with one more woman before we put on the ball and chain" is offensive to start with. If you asked the woman to marry you, you want to spend your life with her, not after the wedding, but starting NOW when you put the diamond on her hand. Getting freaky with a stranger as a last hoorah is in poor taste, whether it's you getting married or you have a girlfriend or fiance and you are wanting it too. You have a right to be offended IMHO. Of course, Yahoo posters' opinons are just that, opinions, and are like buttholes, we all have one, so your BF won't care...........
 
To tell you the truth it seems like you're very strict in your relationship.
Don't take it so seriously.It's a boyfriends pet peeve to have a very strict girlfriend.I mean I'm not saying he can cheat on you and do whatever he wants wtih girl,ofcourse not!, but you shouldn't of said"no llapdances"or anything because you honeslty sounded like a mother right there.Just warn him and be like "Please don't do anything stupid,I tust you." Or something along those lines.If you trust him enough and you know he actually has feelings for you and is SERIOUS than doon't worry yourelf over the top
:)
 
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