I'm in a long distance relationship with my fiance. We have dated for 2 1/2 years and were best friends before we started dating. Recently he says that I've been nagging too much, here are the things I recall talking about: It drives me crazy that he has to always be doing something when we talk, whether its playing a video game, or music, or solitary he is always doing something and I feel like he isn't paying attention to me. He says he doesn't like to talk but in a l.d.r. that's pretty much all we can do. Second, I kinda complain about him mom because in my opinion she uses him and she doesn't seem to like me much, I think the mom think is the usual inlaw type situation, I also complain about him not being very romantic, something I think alot of girls probablly think but don't necessarily say, and finally I complain about him always bugging me about doing sexy things for him, I don't always have a problem with it but it kinda gets annoying if its all the time. I don't think any of these are a big deal really but I do seem to get on him alot about them and I think our relationship is hurting. Recently he said we should take a break but we didn't, we are one of those couples that fights alot but always makes up. I love him very much and I know he loves me too. I know that he does alot for me and I know that I've been somewhat unappreciative so I want to stop nagging him so much, however sometimes I feel like he's a bit verbally abusive, he kinda puts me down sometimes. So that is why I'm confused. The truth is we love each other very much but I don't necessarily think we are the most compatable people in the world. We just can't break it off because we do love each other so much and it kills us. So I don't necessarily think that is the solution. I want us to work out and I know he does. So I mean does anyone have any advice to help me out with the nagging and perhaps a way for us to work things out better. We are both stubborn and thats why we always buck heads. I want to marry him though and I know he wants the same thing so I really need some help to prevent some fighting. There is alot more I guess I have been super sheltered and want freedom but don't want to give him up and its really a hard and complex situation because he's in the military and our time together is so limited. But he's been in for a year and already went through a deployment, we've made it through so many fights and hard times that I know we can make it through anything. We are both very stubborn in our persistance as well. Please help me out I really want to show him that I am trying to make things better for us.
yea sorry about all the writing, and he does do plenty of great things for me I just haven't listed them because I wrote alot as is, he is a wonderful guy he just has faults like me, I love him and most of the time he treats me really well but other times he's a royal pain lol
it is love and it wasn't always an LDR we dated for a year before he joined the army, I can't explain our relationship in a paragraph, we really do love each other we just fight alot, I don't know what I would do without him, and I'm all he has really, the problem is we grew up VERY differently and so he has problems being emotional whereas my family has raised me to want lots of love and affection. Idk I just know how bad it hurts when we even talk about breaking up, or if we do break up the longest its been has been like a week, anywho thank you guys for all your advice
yea sorry about all the writing, and he does do plenty of great things for me I just haven't listed them because I wrote alot as is, he is a wonderful guy he just has faults like me, I love him and most of the time he treats me really well but other times he's a royal pain lol
it is love and it wasn't always an LDR we dated for a year before he joined the army, I can't explain our relationship in a paragraph, we really do love each other we just fight alot, I don't know what I would do without him, and I'm all he has really, the problem is we grew up VERY differently and so he has problems being emotional whereas my family has raised me to want lots of love and affection. Idk I just know how bad it hurts when we even talk about breaking up, or if we do break up the longest its been has been like a week, anywho thank you guys for all your advice