(long, but interesting)
please note that I'm not a nosy friend or anything, but this is from last year. The messages exchanged are a 16 year old guy and a 22 year old girl. The woman has been in a stressful process of breaking up with her boyfriend of a year(who is 31), she met a 16 year old she's known for over a year and the 2 of them have been spending alot of time time with each other ever since she has broke up with the 31 year old ex: the 16 year old guy and the 22 year old girl went to the beach together and did the drug ecstasy while there, and these messages followed up the next day. The 16 year old lives on his own and supports himself without help and his parents arent in his life, but it is unknown if they went back to his apartment after the beach or not. It was also said they were considering moving in with each other.
:Message from guy:
I've actually been thinking...I don't exactly know where to start.When I think of this situation between you, (exs name) and myself; its just way too weird and I think it will lead to way too much confusion. On Friday you told me quite a bit about You and (exs name),how it was constantly problematic. The way you explained things to me, it really did sound like you planning on moving on. I know you're still with him a lot and trying to "work things out" but I don't really understand what you mean by that. You mentioned to me about how he was a negative influence on you, and how you weren't living this constant unhealthy lifestyle before you knew him. By what I know and what I've seen, how I think; why don't you just go back into a relationship with him? Right now to me that just seems like it would make a lot of sense. If I'm wrong and you are actually trying to move on but still being so involved, its going to be so much harder for you, and just completely lost in your thoughts.
We seemed to get along real well and had a good connection, and by that I mean a good friendship that might of had the potential to evolve into something more in the future if we both thought the same. I was actually real surprised and it felt quite nice to cuddle with you for all the times we've spent together.
All the plans we were talking about and discussing on Friday, they all sounded like a lot of fun and would work; but now I don't think any of those future plans would be such a good idea. Especially the moving in together part, I actually thought that would have worked out real well but now I'm too unsure. If you would just be honest with me and explain to me what is actually going on, and what your thoughts are between You and (exs name). I'll always be honest with you. I'd really hate to see you stuck in a problem you just couldn't get out of, So if you really do feel like wanting to explain then I'll understand. If I don't hear anything or nothing can be said, then sadly I don't think we can be friends or anything else if that was ever meant to happen.
:Womans message back:
(Guys name),
I'm so sorry. I really do feel like we have a good connection too. You're a great guy and I really do want to become move involved with you, and Friday was definitely alot of fun. This thing with (exs name) is probably the most stressful thing I've had to deal with and for some reason I keep putting myself in the same situation. I don't know why. Maybe it's because sometimes we have good moments and in order to experience them, I put myself through the bad parts when most of the time it seems to not be worth it. I spent the weekend with him and of course he keeps telling me we're not together so I tell him to never call me if he doesn't want a relationship with me. But what does he do the next day or a day after that? Calls me and says he loves me and misses me and the same bullshit repeats itself. I just keep falling into his trap thinking "maybe this time he'll tell me he wants to be together, maybe this time he'll change." I keep setting myself up for depression and disappointment and its my own damn fault. I don't know why I'm so weak or why I feel I can't do any better but that's how he makes me feel and that's basically the major part of my ****** up situation. I can understand if you don't want to be involved with me as a friend, or in a future relationship together, but I hope this helps you understand a bit and if not.. I'm not sure about anything anymore.....
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From reading this does it sound like the 2 had sex, or something went on? the 16 year old and the woman are both very attractive, the teen looks older than the woman. I'd like to know opinions, the 2 met over a year ago but started hanging out alot more when she started breaking up with the 31 year old, who is heavily addicted to oxycontin and cocaine.
please note that I'm not a nosy friend or anything, but this is from last year. The messages exchanged are a 16 year old guy and a 22 year old girl. The woman has been in a stressful process of breaking up with her boyfriend of a year(who is 31), she met a 16 year old she's known for over a year and the 2 of them have been spending alot of time time with each other ever since she has broke up with the 31 year old ex: the 16 year old guy and the 22 year old girl went to the beach together and did the drug ecstasy while there, and these messages followed up the next day. The 16 year old lives on his own and supports himself without help and his parents arent in his life, but it is unknown if they went back to his apartment after the beach or not. It was also said they were considering moving in with each other.
:Message from guy:
I've actually been thinking...I don't exactly know where to start.When I think of this situation between you, (exs name) and myself; its just way too weird and I think it will lead to way too much confusion. On Friday you told me quite a bit about You and (exs name),how it was constantly problematic. The way you explained things to me, it really did sound like you planning on moving on. I know you're still with him a lot and trying to "work things out" but I don't really understand what you mean by that. You mentioned to me about how he was a negative influence on you, and how you weren't living this constant unhealthy lifestyle before you knew him. By what I know and what I've seen, how I think; why don't you just go back into a relationship with him? Right now to me that just seems like it would make a lot of sense. If I'm wrong and you are actually trying to move on but still being so involved, its going to be so much harder for you, and just completely lost in your thoughts.
We seemed to get along real well and had a good connection, and by that I mean a good friendship that might of had the potential to evolve into something more in the future if we both thought the same. I was actually real surprised and it felt quite nice to cuddle with you for all the times we've spent together.
All the plans we were talking about and discussing on Friday, they all sounded like a lot of fun and would work; but now I don't think any of those future plans would be such a good idea. Especially the moving in together part, I actually thought that would have worked out real well but now I'm too unsure. If you would just be honest with me and explain to me what is actually going on, and what your thoughts are between You and (exs name). I'll always be honest with you. I'd really hate to see you stuck in a problem you just couldn't get out of, So if you really do feel like wanting to explain then I'll understand. If I don't hear anything or nothing can be said, then sadly I don't think we can be friends or anything else if that was ever meant to happen.
:Womans message back:
(Guys name),
I'm so sorry. I really do feel like we have a good connection too. You're a great guy and I really do want to become move involved with you, and Friday was definitely alot of fun. This thing with (exs name) is probably the most stressful thing I've had to deal with and for some reason I keep putting myself in the same situation. I don't know why. Maybe it's because sometimes we have good moments and in order to experience them, I put myself through the bad parts when most of the time it seems to not be worth it. I spent the weekend with him and of course he keeps telling me we're not together so I tell him to never call me if he doesn't want a relationship with me. But what does he do the next day or a day after that? Calls me and says he loves me and misses me and the same bullshit repeats itself. I just keep falling into his trap thinking "maybe this time he'll tell me he wants to be together, maybe this time he'll change." I keep setting myself up for depression and disappointment and its my own damn fault. I don't know why I'm so weak or why I feel I can't do any better but that's how he makes me feel and that's basically the major part of my ****** up situation. I can understand if you don't want to be involved with me as a friend, or in a future relationship together, but I hope this helps you understand a bit and if not.. I'm not sure about anything anymore.....
--------------------------------------…
From reading this does it sound like the 2 had sex, or something went on? the 16 year old and the woman are both very attractive, the teen looks older than the woman. I'd like to know opinions, the 2 met over a year ago but started hanging out alot more when she started breaking up with the 31 year old, who is heavily addicted to oxycontin and cocaine.