I have a really big problem that I need some help with. I'm already considering getting some therapy for this and will likely do so- I just want to see what others think of if it seems like I'm afraid of intimacy for some other reason.
I'm 23 years old, and have had two very long, serious relationships. One lasted from (my ages)15-21 and the other was for about a year when I was 22. I have been single for exactly a year now and have gone on a few dates, but I always FREAK OUT when it comes time to do anything intimate. I feel weird kissing or even thinking about sleeping with anyone new and I am not sure why. Is this because I was in such deep relationships from a young age? I can't think of any other reason. Logically and emotionally, I feel that I do indeed want to date and to meet new people and to become sexually intimate with them, but I feel totally weird about it at the moment- like I can't stop comparing anyone new to someone I was with for years before. Hopefully this makes sense.
Basically, this whole "dating" this is totally new to me. I basically met someone really really young, fell in love, and that was that. I also found someone I was very comfortable with and was with them for about a year. This third time seems a little different.
I'm 23 years old, and have had two very long, serious relationships. One lasted from (my ages)15-21 and the other was for about a year when I was 22. I have been single for exactly a year now and have gone on a few dates, but I always FREAK OUT when it comes time to do anything intimate. I feel weird kissing or even thinking about sleeping with anyone new and I am not sure why. Is this because I was in such deep relationships from a young age? I can't think of any other reason. Logically and emotionally, I feel that I do indeed want to date and to meet new people and to become sexually intimate with them, but I feel totally weird about it at the moment- like I can't stop comparing anyone new to someone I was with for years before. Hopefully this makes sense.
Basically, this whole "dating" this is totally new to me. I basically met someone really really young, fell in love, and that was that. I also found someone I was very comfortable with and was with them for about a year. This third time seems a little different.