...anymore!? I am sorry if this seems long.. but there is no other way to explain. My boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago and disconnected his number 2 days later. He has never contacted me since. The story is way too long but here is some. We were together on and off for two years and knew each other for a few years before we got together. It was always him who left and would come back. He is 27, turning 28 this year and I am 21 turning 22 this year.
• He has been married before and left his wife
• Got together with me in.. june 08 (wanted to break it off in august but then he realised he was “in love” with me.
• Left me in dec, just before xmas and cancelled my holiday that I was meant to go on with him and his family. He told me... “i will back, i need to be alone for now”.
• He still went on the holiday, obviously I didn’t.
• During this break-up he mingled with numerous women, whilst seeing me still. I later found out that he met these women before we had broken up. He never ‘did’ anything with them when me and him were together, but the same day he broke up with me, that night he took one out....
• I told him to get lost and I had enough
• After 2 months he came back to me saying he was now ready for a relationship he just needed to be ‘alone’ and wooed his way in.
• Got back together feb 09, but until september we always had fights. And he would quickly turn it around on me. He could never be in the wrong but was extremely good at me feeling guilty.
• Would go out some nights(not contact me at all ) drunk off his face
• 2 weeks after my 21st bday he leaves me (october). Two weeks later, he comes running back
• Book another holiday to go on over the new year
• He starts acting funny again and 5 weeks after getting back together he dumps me- again
• This time I crack and scream and cry at him, he leaves me alone in a park at night time
• He cancels the holiday the next day
• But exactly a week later,he gets into contact with me
• We meet up, he wants me back. Claims that he is crazy about me, he loves me more than he had loved his own wife. I am for him. I am like his drug, he doesn’t need anyone else and even though we fight he will never leave me again.Acknowledges EVERYTHING that he has done wrong.. and i am very taken back by it all! Too good to be true...
• Buys me flowers, and he cries because he is so happy and relived “im back”
• Xmas comes around, promises me that he will never leave me again and I will never have to worry about him leaving.
• Book a holiday AGAIN and this time.. we go on it, just after the new year.
• On the trip I basically paid for a lot more than i could afford. (I am a uni student and he works full time getting good money)
• Got back after 10 days, he turns cold.. only sees me like 3-4 times in 2 weeks and exactly 2 weeks after getting back... he dumps me. “Oh im not in love anymore”, “I care for u but as a person”. “We need to go our separate ways”.
• Leaves me in a park
• D/c his number
He spoke to my mum two months after we split saying how sad he is still, and he thinks of me everyday, he really did love me. Blah blah.
You can say “oh he is an asshole” etc and I know this, but I am finding it extremely hard to move on. For some reason I still want him to get into contact with me. I feel like i deserve more than how he left it and he owes me in some way? I know the relationship sounds bad, but we actually had some really good times. I feel sick thinking about him with other women and I don’t understand why i wasn’t good enough? Does he think there is someone better out there? Do you think he will change or will he always be like this? Normally in the past when he had left me, he would have rang by now. He is also an extreme mummys boy and devoted brother to his sisters. I know they influene him A LOT.
I need advice.. please.
• He has been married before and left his wife
• Got together with me in.. june 08 (wanted to break it off in august but then he realised he was “in love” with me.
• Left me in dec, just before xmas and cancelled my holiday that I was meant to go on with him and his family. He told me... “i will back, i need to be alone for now”.
• He still went on the holiday, obviously I didn’t.
• During this break-up he mingled with numerous women, whilst seeing me still. I later found out that he met these women before we had broken up. He never ‘did’ anything with them when me and him were together, but the same day he broke up with me, that night he took one out....
• I told him to get lost and I had enough
• After 2 months he came back to me saying he was now ready for a relationship he just needed to be ‘alone’ and wooed his way in.
• Got back together feb 09, but until september we always had fights. And he would quickly turn it around on me. He could never be in the wrong but was extremely good at me feeling guilty.
• Would go out some nights(not contact me at all ) drunk off his face
• 2 weeks after my 21st bday he leaves me (october). Two weeks later, he comes running back
• Book another holiday to go on over the new year
• He starts acting funny again and 5 weeks after getting back together he dumps me- again
• This time I crack and scream and cry at him, he leaves me alone in a park at night time
• He cancels the holiday the next day
• But exactly a week later,he gets into contact with me
• We meet up, he wants me back. Claims that he is crazy about me, he loves me more than he had loved his own wife. I am for him. I am like his drug, he doesn’t need anyone else and even though we fight he will never leave me again.Acknowledges EVERYTHING that he has done wrong.. and i am very taken back by it all! Too good to be true...
• Buys me flowers, and he cries because he is so happy and relived “im back”
• Xmas comes around, promises me that he will never leave me again and I will never have to worry about him leaving.
• Book a holiday AGAIN and this time.. we go on it, just after the new year.
• On the trip I basically paid for a lot more than i could afford. (I am a uni student and he works full time getting good money)
• Got back after 10 days, he turns cold.. only sees me like 3-4 times in 2 weeks and exactly 2 weeks after getting back... he dumps me. “Oh im not in love anymore”, “I care for u but as a person”. “We need to go our separate ways”.
• Leaves me in a park
• D/c his number
He spoke to my mum two months after we split saying how sad he is still, and he thinks of me everyday, he really did love me. Blah blah.
You can say “oh he is an asshole” etc and I know this, but I am finding it extremely hard to move on. For some reason I still want him to get into contact with me. I feel like i deserve more than how he left it and he owes me in some way? I know the relationship sounds bad, but we actually had some really good times. I feel sick thinking about him with other women and I don’t understand why i wasn’t good enough? Does he think there is someone better out there? Do you think he will change or will he always be like this? Normally in the past when he had left me, he would have rang by now. He is also an extreme mummys boy and devoted brother to his sisters. I know they influene him A LOT.
I need advice.. please.