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ganderson
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I just got out of an 11 year marriage to my military husband. I was faithful and worked hard at raising our 2 children alone with no support from family and no friends. I was homebound for years because I had no help or support. He was mentally and physically abusive toward me, and our divorce was finalized in March of this year. He had a 2 year affair on me with another military personnel that I recently found out about, in fact they were married days after our divorce. The entire time he lied about his where abouts, threw objects at me when I would confront him about what he's doing. He was lazy around the house, wouldn't lift a hand to help with the kids and left us all with nothing a few months ago. I tried contacting his chain of command and got no response from the Army. They blew me off and he got away with everything including medical bills that were submitted to the wrong company. He kept it from me that there was an error and the medical bills didn't get paid for resulting in a lawsuit against me to pay them being they were accumulated during our marriage. He sent collections a cease and disist letter and now they won't go after him for any of it when I have a court order signed by a judge stating I'm only responsible for half. He refuses to give me his chain of command info, etc. I tried finding out what it was by contacting the Army and they refuse to give that info to me or cooperate with me in any fashion. I'm a single mother of 2 children now and had to have child support forced from him because he washed his hands of all of us. I'm just now starting to develop self worth and independance. I'm still recovering from losing my marriage to a man I loved unconditionally and tried to tell myself to trust. My children are hurt over this and I've done all I can to help them get through it and be strong all at the same time. What should I do about these debts he's left me? I have no other family besides my co workers and a mother 6 states away paralyzed from the neck down from a car accident 15 years ago. I'm working overtimes constantly and barely have time to spend with my kids. I was lucky to find a friend after this that helps me with childcare so I can work and try to make my kids lives better and normal. They didn't deserve this....I didn't deserve this. I was blindsided when he just walked out after chucking a trash can lid at my face for asking him where he was at. He continued to lie to me when I asked him who he left us for. He said he's been alone this whole time and I just found out days ago he had been having an affair with another military woman who knew about our marriage the entire time. As I washed his clothes, cooked his meals and stayed at home raising these kids alone and being alone, he was out having an affair on me and throwing things at me when he was home. Do I do anything? Or is there anything I can do or someone I can contact for him to be held accountable for his actions?