a sex related question, i cant cope wiith it..plz opinions?

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my gf told me that she wasnt a virgin and that she had sex a long time ago, we are at a long distance for the time being, but i cannot cope with this new piece of info she gave me, how can i ask her to stop it if shes still having it, it really depresses and shocks me to my bones when i think of another boy touching her, whats the right way of telling her without seeming possessive?
 
she said she had sex a long time ago. that does not mean she's having it now so why do you need to ask her to stop? if you cannot get over the fact that she is not a virgin then you need to break up. if you think she's cheating on you then you need to break up. you cannot have a successful long distance relationship with someone you don't trust.
 
You have a right to be upset, if you were dating when she boned another dude. She cheated on you. Um but if you were not dating exclusively, Id just tell her how you feel. and why you feel this way, and if she doesn't understand your feelings then say adios and move on.
 
well if shes your girlfriend she shouldn't be having sex with other people? even if it is a long distance relationship?
 
Well for one, if it was a while ago, before you dated, then move on, BUT if she's still doing it, you need to dump her *** theres no reason for someone like her to have a date, looks like her best effort is on her back, or knees, you need to find someone more suitable, and possibly around your area, but that's only if she's doing it now, but if she did it a while ago, move on, don't think about it, besides... maybe you should wait until you're married, so most of that nasty crap will be gone by then :) lol
 
Are you Virginal? Do you demand of a woman what you can't give? Even so you didn't know her then. If you can't cope with this you better
walk away. How will you cope with the rest of lifes problems. You learn tto put the problem in its proper place and move on. If you can't learn to handle life better you need to get some help.
 
If she's your girlfriend, she shouldn't be doing it anyway. Just tell her that what she's doing isn't right. If she's not doing it then don't worry, smile! :)
 
she said it was a long time ago. obviously she was attempting to be open and honest with you and youre freaking for no reason.
get over it. its in the past. i really dont know why she even told you-if it was before you it really has nothing to do with your relationship with her now. if you dont trust her, let her go, its not fair to her.
 
If she's still having sex, obviously your relationship isn't important to her so break up with her...that can get pretty intense and turn into a nasty break up if you wait it out. If you can't deal with the thought of her having sex with someone before you, you should try to move on from it--if you can't, it will keep coming up throughout your relationship. It isn't fair to judge her on what happened before you two were together, but its your choice if that interferes with your own values.
 
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