A question for "military" relationships.Am I wrong?

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My boyfriend is in the navy and wants me to come live with him off base,but I don't think I should go because we're not married.Still hes very persistant about me going,but from what I understand you don't exist in the navy unless you're married.Meaning you dont get any benifits.I just don't think girls should just pick up and follow there military boyfriends unless they have some protection(married).I'm just trying to be realistic.Any advice? Maybe I'm just paranoid.I don't know.
 
You aren't paranoid. You are 100% correct that as a girlfriend, you don't qualify for any military benefits the way wives do. It would be a hardship for you to go to where he is and try to live outside of port on your own.
 
You posted a question earlier about how you can get him to propose. You have a serious lack of communication in your relationship. If he hasn't asked and you are not going to ask then your relationship isn't going to make it.

You are 18 years old. I suggest you both keep a long distance relationship and see how things work out. What happens if you go and it doesn't work out than you are stuck. If you are married and get divorce you are out there still on your own.
 
You posted a question earlier about how you can get him to propose. You have a serious lack of communication in your relationship. If he hasn't asked and you are not going to ask then your relationship isn't going to make it.

You are 18 years old. I suggest you both keep a long distance relationship and see how things work out. What happens if you go and it doesn't work out than you are stuck. If you are married and get divorce you are out there still on your own.
 
I totally agree you shouldn't go unmarried. Only because when he gets deployed, where does that leave you? In a town *possibly a new state altogether* with NO access to the military installation, no benefits, and most likely no money to get yourself home if something were to happen. Think long and hard before you tell him yes. I know first hand how military relationships generally end. Good Luck!
 
You are being extremely logical and sensible. You are correct, if you are not married, you do not exist to the military. You do what is right for you, he apparently is not too concerned about your future since there is no talk of commitment on his side of the isle.
 
It depends if your boyfriend is enlisted or an officer, if enlisted, most likely he won't be able to live off base unless he is already married. (only way he can get a house). You do get benefits, the navy will basically pay for your housing, but just make sure this is what you want to do before you decide... sometimes it ends horribly. If he is in fact a Nuc, you need to realize that he'll be very busy in schooling for a lot of the time. (if an officer, you have more choices)
 
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