A question for men. How would you react at finding your child is not your child...

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...after all? I have a friend with a 15 year old son. I've known for long time there were suspicions in the family that maybe the boy is not his son. His wife cheated on him twice and they ended up separating when the boy was 4 years old. She took the boy back to Italy and my friend stayed in the UK. He has always paid child support and his son would come twice a year to London or he would go to Italy to see him. My friend never wanted to do a test to find out the truth, but now he remarried and has 3 kids under 4. He thinks it's time to do the test...
I feel really sad with this, because I think he is only doing it due to pressure from his new wife and also the financial side. Him and his son don't get along very well sice the children were born.
Would you do the test? What if it came back you're not the father?
 
If there were any doubts he should have had it done at the time. It's a little late now. He may as well just accept the kid as his own as he has for the last 15 years.

So far as what would I do, if I thought my kids weren't mine, and I got tested and they weren't.

The answer is simple. I would walk away, and I would give her nothing.
 
Not a nice situation at all but I would want to have a test done. That way he can be sure.
 
Has he ever considered the boy's feelings in all of this? I bet the answer is no. If he has been his father in name for all these years, he IS his father. Full stop. I bet the boy is jealous of the younger siblings, but that's normal, whether he is your friend's biological son or not. Your friend should work harder at the relationship and stop being so self-centred. It's teenage boys who are meant to be selfish, not their fathers, biological or otherwise.

Edit: Well said Mrs GC! A friend of mine raised his partner's two children (obviously in the full knowledge on all sides that they were not "his" by blood) and when she left him, the kids chose to stay with him, not go with her. Now he is a REAL father.
 
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