A logical solution to the gay marriage debate ( in my opinion)?

[Sdfa F]

Alot of people have alot of strong opinions on this topic, so I will just give mine. I am straight male and this topic draws intense emotions from people so therefore it can't be discussed rationally. There are two sides on this issue, one side says that marriage is between a man and a woman and we don't want to change the defention of marriage because of religion and there is another side that says it should be all the same. They should repeal the gay marriage ban and DOMA for equal rights BUT at the same time taking everything religious and anything that references god out of a marriage cermony. There can be a mulitude of options, if straight couples don't want their cermonies to be the same as gay ones they should have an option can that makes it completey different and they can even legally document their marriage differently then a gay one ( Call it a traditional marriage or whatever) BUT at the same time it falls under the same Umbrella of marriage. Marriage won't be a religious cermony and everybody will be treated equally under the law. The most important thing is that everyone gets treated equally under the law.
I think it should satsify everyone
Most religions of have their own specific views on homosexuality and churches shouldn't have to change those views
Emmasj if it doesn't effect the rights of gays and it is still falls under the umbrella of marriage, why shouldn't they?
ver-jun I meant that for goverment marriages everyting religious should be taken out of it. If gays want religious cermonies they should go to a church
ver-jun I meant that for goverment marriages everyting religious should be taken out of it. If gays want religious cermonies they should go to a church
ver-jun I meant that for goverment marriages everyting religious should be taken out of it. If gays want religious cermonies they should go to a church
no I just messed up lol

 

[ver_jen]

I was with you until you said this:

"taking everything religious and anything that references god out of a marriage cermony"

There are people who believe that the Bible does not condemn homosexuality but rather same sex activity that was used to humiliate a foe or for pagan worship of fertility gods. They do have a right to a religious ceremony if they desire one. This would be discrimination if it were banned. Now, obviously no one should be forced to perform a marriage that they do not believe is sanctified in God's eyes BUT there are ministers out there who will do a marriage for homosexuals and be fine with doing it.

It should read that no one will be required to perform a same sex marriage if they are a member of clergy but are allowed to if they decide that it is right for them to do so. A governmental official would not have the right to refuse to marry a same sex couple as it is their right to get married by law.

I think that it would be a good idea to have one labeled "Traditional" marriage so that those who desire can separate themselves from other forms of marriage. Those who do not care if they are separate or not can just have it labeled marriage.

To be truly honest, since in the United States we are to have a separation of Church and state, this should be a non issue. The only reason for banning gay marriage is a religious one. The government is breaking it's own standards by even putting it up for a vote. There should be a separation of Church and State. The Church should not decide the laws for the state.

EDIT: Wow- you loved me enough to post that three times. LOL J/K

 

[Pareidolia]

I agree completely with that, our government should not be recognizing religious rites in public law. The union of two (sometimes more) people has been recognized in all cultures in various ways; you can't claim it is a concept of any religion(s). As long as there is truly equal rights I am not opposed to gay and straight marriage having different names, though it is a compromise measure.