25 yr old won't listen, just complains?

[mariasonawire]

My foster daughter is 25 and unable to handle real life situations. I did my best to try and persuade her to go to college or find a career, training program, etc. She insisted on moving out at 18 and is now 25. It has been non stop job insecurity, roommate problems, always financial problems and when you throw boyfriend problems into the mix, it is constant discontent and stress and unhappiness. I try to explain that life is not easy, nothing comes free, you have to work for what you want. I still try and explain that without a good job she will always be struggling, that we all have had to suffer roommates and everyone’s cars need costly repairs – this is life. We are all broke and sacrificing in this economy. I try to offer ways to help her budget and cut costs. But she sees the sky falling and feels like a victim, why me? Why does my life suck? Why does everything happen all at once? She causes many of these problems but has a sense of entitlement. She does not understand that when you have roommates or rent a room in someone’s house, you don’t get to have 6 people visit for a weekend, EVERY WEEKEND. It is not your house. I try to get through to her that this is life but it is about learning to sacrifice, cope, gaining a perspective, picking your battles, deciding to get upset at some things and let others go, setting small goals, committing to the work and energy to achieve them. But she wants it all now, instant. I don’t get through to her, I throw whatever money I can at her problems and always the love, the support, words of wisdom that falls on deaf ears. Am I missing something? Any other thoughts out there?
By throwing $$, I mean $20 to $50 because I don't have very much money, I certainly am in no position to fix her brakes or pay her rent. But I always tell her she has a home with me forever no matter what. But she is adamant about living in the big city.