That is great that he is 17 days sober.. Good for him.. However, I am going to be really honest with you.... and I hope you don't take it the wrong way but you are not the one who should be walking on egg shells about him relapsing.. HE is in control of that and should not be able to be tip toed around OR ELSE he may relapse.. That is not fair to you.... Think about it. Even in his sobriety it seems he has a way of controlling you... I only say that because I have been controlled.
I just hope you are hanging in there and I want you to stick around.. I really hope this works out for him but it's not YOUR job to keep him sober.. It's HIS. Please don't forget that.
Respectfully Stated,
~Secrets