The problem is that you do not want help, you want someone to tell you it is OK to stay with this puke. He hits you, walk away from this now, and put him in jail. That is the best thing you can do for both of you.
FBI crime stats show that over 2000 people were murdered in California last year, and that is more every year in California than Iraq and Afghanistan together per year. So I think we should pull out of California.