I would imagine that it is held that based on the percentage of minorities that took the test, that less than that same percentage passed the test. Ipso facto the test is biased. That is a faulty premise.
I'm living proof that you can live through it. I got hit, went over the windshield, roof and trunk and ended up 10 feet BEHIND the car. After making several doctors rich, I'm still here. Would I like to do it again ? No... thanks anyway.
It's said that approximately 1 in 8 people are seriously mentally/emotionally messed up. Recognize that she may be one of them. If she hasn't warmed up in 15 years it is unlikely that she will (or can). Is she able to maintain any close relationships ? Are they with men ? women? both ...