Save yourself! No guarantees my dear in life that you get what you give. You have done all of these good things for YOUR benefit - whether your parents asked you to do them or not - all of them will benefit YOU - & that is self love, something your parents did not teach you but that you...
If he was doing anything like that - he wouldn't be telling that story. I think it sounds perfectly legit to call someone fluffy instead of fat. I'm thinking of laying that nickname on someone I know now as a matter of fact! Ha! :)