Try a vitamin called BIOFLAVENOID by Solgar. It should help.
It is normal to lose your sex drive during menopause but you still can have sex. Use a lube gel or something to help.
As for your husband - if you want to keep him happy - touch him - have sex with him - it may aggravate you but do...
Court house is just that - place to recite the vows.
Go to a chapel of your choice and ask how much they charge for a small wedding ceremony. Usually on an "off " day (not a Sunday) it's cheap. Have some music (even if it's from a box) and wear a simple dress or gown - he should be in a suit...
You need to say something to authorities.
Where is are the children's father?
No child should be subject to porn.
It appears she is grooming them to be child porn stars. If the kids see this often enough they will believe it is normal. Then when their mother puts them out they will do it.
Do...