I have the trans with the S3/S4 switch, which didn't work and the S3 light comes on sporadically and flashes. The problems are the trans won't shift into overdrive until the engine reaches full operating temp. and once that corrects itself (2 miles) I have a 'delay' in shifts from 3 to 4. It had...
This is a tough time for anyone to go through. It's something that you are going to have to accept right now and move forward. Adoption and IBF are options down the track and i'm sure that you will think about this in later life. For now just concentrate on what your doing now like being young...