So you think the law is ridiculous? Then change the law. Start petitioning your state legislators, get the signatures you need and present it to be changed in the state legislature.
Otherwise, cut the excuses. Go to court if you must to try to whine your way out of what you admit is your own...
I am sorry that your friend has cancer. I applaud you for wanting to help. However, the best place to start is in your community. Make her condition known to the community via the newspaper or internet. Tell others what she is going through and organize events that will help raise money for...