Easy....he still has feelings for the ex, using you to make her jealousy but it back fired. So you might wanna rethink this relationship. Also long distance affairs are very tricky, most are fantasy based the time spent is on the cell phone dreaming dreams. A girlfriend or two in his home town...
Standing on what you believe is the object of winning a debate. Do you believe women belong on the front lines? As what I am reading you don't now take if from there.