125. it's smarter to start out smaller. you can always sell it and get something else later on. you can control a lighter/slower bike better. for a beginner, it's really dangerous to have something heavy and powerful.
yes, she's your wife. she was their daughter first, and part of their lives longer than yours. just be sensitive to things in the future. with your wife, talk to her about this....without being an upset defensive jackass. ex: "what happened with your mom in there? she seemed upset at me."...