It boggles the mind that "he created himself" is the best explanation they can come up with.
Noyb, you should take about 5 minutes to ponder upon everything you would not have without the theories of mankind.
You initially mentioned you want a spiritual soft art, but also want a truly effective hand to hand combat technique.
Although some will disagree, the most effective forms of self defense focus primarily on just that, not spirituality.
Muay Thai
Kick Boxing
Brazilian Jiu Jitsu
Combat Sambo...