How Sad...you two need some counseling...both myself and my husband found 6 weeks difficult but we did make it...why would you want to avoid sex for a year?
I suggest making it very clear that YOU and your husband are the parents...there were NO days I would have been "stranded" waiting for a 17 month old to DECIDE to get in her car seat...she would do it when I told her to or face the consequences,,,she would have TWO chances then her bottom would...